What do I do between appointments?
First, we strongly encourage you to read “Healing Life’s Hurts Through Theophostic Prayer.”  The first 3 chapters are available free of charge on our Home Page.

The Lord loves us, meets us, and is glorified in our weaknesses.  Though we often minimize them, these weaknesses (turmoil, disappointment, frustration, etc.) expose areas that God wants to transform.  Pray for the grace and strength to believe this, to see what these areas are, and to find the original source of these feelings.  It is easier to deny or rationalize these hurts, but one of my prayers is, “Lord, show me the way things are, not the way I think things are.”

Next, reframe your thinking by not instantly blaming at others when you get “stirred up.”  Whatever reaction goes on inside of you comes from your soul and deep inner belief system. The enemy is most successful in attacking us by exploiting false inner beliefs in our stirred-up state of mind.  To minimize the effectiveness of the deceiver’s “schemes” and “flaming arrows” (Eph. 6:11,16), we need Jesus to renew our beliefs with Truth at the core level.

Be aware of reactions you have to “triggering” situations.  *Make time to focus on the emotions involved.  Ask the Lord to help you find out your “history” with this emotion.  Find the earliest memory and allow the intensity of it to surface.  Discover the false beliefs imbedded there.  When you are ready and willing, simply ask the Lord to give you His perspective and Truth regarding the lies there.  We can then check out those places when you come in next.

Don’t be discouraged by “walls”.  Finding walls simply means that your mind is working hard at protecting something important.

There is never nothing happening in our minds – though that may be our perception.  You’ll be amazed at what the Lord does to strengthen your faith here.  He always meets us where we are – but He wants to take us far beyond that.  

*A detailed explanation of this approach is found in “Healing Life’s Hurts Through Theophostic Prayer.”  We strongly encourage you to purchase a copy ($14).  Checks for materials can be made out to “CrossCounsel”.