Do You Do Marriage Counseling?

That depends on how you define Marriage Counseling.  If you are looking for someone to simply sit in the middle of you and your spouse while each tells his or her own side, then we’re not the place for you.  Neither will we make suggestions as to how to cope with each other’s issues or “landmines” that often destroy marriage.  Landmines can be stepped around and sometimes avoided.  But this is a continual battle that doesn’t change the real issues.  We believe there is a better way.

We do meet with couples.  If both are present, then we may take some time to put several issues on the table.  Then each person individually will be ministered to by using the Theophostic Prayer Ministry® (TPM) approach and process.  Conflict in marriage is most often a result of having one’s lie-based thinking exposed or brought into the light.  This usually bumps up against the other’s lie-based thinking.  Both individuals are then “triggered” and therefore cannot communicate effectively (or willingly).  The cycle continues as long as the false beliefs are there.  

As each person is willing to take responsibility for his or her false thinking, not blame anyone else, and allow the Lord to renew the false thinking with His experiential truth (see next section), we find that couples begin to relate quite well with each other.  Spouses discover that the major landmines that used to be in their marriage are no longer there.  Other issues may then surface, but those who are faithful to this process will continue to “be transformed by the renewing of your mind” – Romans 12:2.

Finally, to be clear, since the word “counseling” is a hot button topic, we go to great lengths not to counsel.  We enjoy letting the Lord fulfill His role as the Wonderful Counselor.  We do our part as King David did with the Israelites as he “shepherded according to the integrity of his heart, and guided them by the skillfulness of his hands” Psalm 78:72.  This partnership has worked well to be sure.