That depends on how you define Marriage Counseling. If you are looking for someone to simply sit in the middle of you and your spouse while each tells his or her own side, then we’re not the place for you. Neither will we make suggestions as to how to cope with each other’s issues or landmines that often destroy marriage.
We believe there is a better way.
We do meet with couples. If both are present, we may take some time to put several issues on the table. Then each person individually will be ministered to by using our ministry approach and process.
Conflict in marriage almost always triggers an angry response. Anger can be projected outward or stuffed inward. Regardless, our minds are well-accustomed to using anger as a way of protecting our deeper hurts - which are fueled by our deeply held beliefs. This self-protective response happens in a fraction of a second. It becomes a ping-pong match of pain. One person's lie-based thinking smacks up against the other person's lie-based thinking. Both individuals are then triggered and therefore cannot communicate effectively or even willingly. The cycle continues as long as the lies are there.
As each person is willing to take responsibility for his or her thinking, not blame anyone else, and then allow the Lord to exchange the lie based thinking for His truth, we find that couples begin to relate better with each other. Spouses discover that the major landmines that used to be in their marriage are no longer there. Other issues may then surface, but those who are faithful to this process will continue to see their lives transformed. When this happens, it gives couples a much greater chance for forgiveness, reconciliation and restoration.
"I realized that even if my spouse didn't want to deal with our marriage issues, I needed healing. Coming to CrossCounsel has renewed my hope." - Anonymous
We wait in hope for the Lord; he is our help and our shield. Psalm 33:20
4690 Cottage Grove Rd., Madison Flexible Hours Mon-Fri, some Sat
(608) 819-6626 Madison (& Text) (214) 364-6328 Dallas